Sunday, November 26, 2023

Two New Flash Fictions out in Alien Buddha #57 (BONUS: Entire Trigger Warning Data Base)

 It's paperback

Has a Color version, 12.99

or Black and White 19.99

Two brand new flash fictions of mine are in it (see below)

The stories:
a) Fairytale of Dysfunction
b) Wedding Guest

The story behind the stories:
a) Fairytale of Dysfunction

The fairytale is Goldilocks and the Three Bears and the metaphor is dysfunctional families, especially dysfunctional mothers who are critical. This isn't based on MY life, but I've seen a whole lot of damage in people's life stories. Those folks will know a thing or two about this.  

b) Wedding Guest

This story is based on _________. Fill in the blank, it's a trigger warning. Let your imagination run by looking at the ENTIRE TRIGGER WARNING DATA BASE. So how does trauma effect people in the future? Read this one and you can find out, but you probably know a thing or two yourself.

Wednesday, November 15, 2023

Talking about Near Death Experiences

 On In Other Words, (my last post) I briefly spoke to Eric Lee Freedman, and James Bryant about my NDE.

            After that one, I had the pleasure of speaking about it fully, and also explain why I usually don't speak about it when Tricia Barker Barton interviewed me on her Near Death Experience podcast. Tricia wrote the book, errrrr, a book on it, and appeared on my Virtual Dire Literary Series.  She is quite an extraordinary human being even in human form. My experience of over 40 years ago changed my life in so many was, and only now am I ready to talk about it. 


ALSO YOU CAN WATCH MY INTERVIEW OF HER from my Dire Series from June 2023

Friday, November 10, 2023

Guest Appearances In Other Words video podcast

In Other Words, a show hosted by James Bryant and Lee Eric Freedman, is a podcast where writers talk about their lives outside of writing.  

I appeared with them in October and spoke about 

00:00 Opening 02:56 Feeding feral cats, 09:07 Nearly failing out of college 13:11 Fun Size Candy vs. Minis 17:12 Having a Near Death Experience 25:00 Being the "go to" guy for useless information in conversation 27:50 Auditioning for Jeopardy and "Stump the Blob" Games Shows on the same day 31:20 Being a Strat-0-Matic Geek 36:00 Electric Football Game was the most disappointing game of my childhood 38:56 Segment: Would You Rather have the olfactory senses of a dog or see more colors in the electromagnetic spectrum like a mantis shrimp?

Friday, November 3, 2023

Three Days Past My Birthday is 13 years….

    So today, November 3, is my birthday, and as an alcoholic, I’m expecting a parade. Won’t happen, but for the past 10-13 or so years, I’ve found that my sober anniversary is a much bigger, more important and brings me much more joy. It marks the anniversary of a change of the better of me, something I am proud of, and something I feel good about when I help others. In three days, November 6, if I can get to three more midnights, I’ll celebrate 13 years of being sober. There will be others celebrating that with me, those who made the same decision I did, and found that their life really began at that point, rather than ended. Oh, and I will get a present---not the one I get every day by being sober, but the one below. I'm very excited to receive it! (Plus read the features of this thing! High Quality 3D Graphics, for example)

So in three days: November 6.

    If you follow me or read me, November 6 marked a decided milestone in my life. On that day in 2010 I stopped drinking, stopped using, became clean and sober, without ever having the need to go back to it. (Note: Need is different than want, and I may have thought that I wanted to, but when push came to shove I didn’t).

    I’ve thought about this and a lot of other things today, (because I tend to overthink), and concluding that stopping was not because of something associated with that particular birthday. Perhaps I was reflecting upon my life on that day (I tend to do that too) and it had some influence, but mostly, I stopped, was because my life wasn’t what I wanted it to be. I was settling for less, my emotions were all over the road, and my personal relationships were pretty non-existent. I was in rough shape physically and mentally. 

    I’ve written about this subject here in the past nearly every year and if you want more details go to the right side of this news/blog thing and open up entries from early November, 2010 and on. (Let me help you)

    Also, there in the search bar (look hard, it's small) if you plug in words, for example, sober, sobriety, alcohol etc., various entries will also come up. (Go ahead, stick your name in there too, to see if I wrote about you).


Mostly, three things stick out about how my life has changed. 

1) I am more even tempered, level-headed, and when there are issues I am able to walk through them. 

2) When my son was married in July, I was asked to speak. This never would have been asked because there was no way anyone could predict what would come out of my mouth. Also, at the wedding my new daughter in law stated, "When it comes to father-in-laws, I hit the jackpot." Yes, again, drunk Tim would have been described by other jackpots. 

3) And most important. Four years ago, almost to the day, my mother would jump straight from a cancer treatment appointment to hospice care. Because of my sobriety I was in a) good standing in my job. b) had enough sick, and vacation days accrued and c) was able to be with her almost every day until she passed. What a gift!